In my opinion, the answer is no with one small exception. The best relationships in the world must grow and evolve -- they don't start and remain perfect. A woman named Jen wrote to ask me if she should stop dating until she achieved her goal weight. This notion that you'll be perfect in the future is crazy -- and confers a ton of pressure on you to be the perfect weight, to look a certain way, before you endeavor to connect with another person. For those people out there who are hyper-sensitive to rejection, and especially those who are this way because of their weight, you may want to lose the weight before dating. Do I believe this is a good idea? Four weeks into online dating Learning to Love Online Dating.
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Lose Weight Before You Date? Ain't Nobody Got Time for That
One of the worst feelings with internet dating is not being contacted by anyone for an extended period of time. You're not an Apple product set to launch sometime next year. My advice to Jen was to keep doing what she was doing: However, I wanted to give myself every opportunity to meet someone…so I started dating immediately. Did I stick with it? You may think you'll be shinier, cooler, or more desirable in the future, but really what you're saying is that you don't think anyone could like you now.